Sometimes I
feel it is so easy to face tough circumstances. All it needs is an attitude. An attitude of courage and detachment, that
will stand the test of time. In brief, just ‘let go’. This is one phrase that
has umpteen meanings deep within it and thus can be used in varied instances. Many
a times, we are hurt by people, incidents or circumstances. Sometimes, the hurt
gets so engrossed within us that it keeps recurring before our eyes and makes
us sad, disappointed and depressed. We may curse the person who has caused the
hurt or blame ourselves for the incident. Fighting with the person or the
circumstances won’t help. In the long run, what is going to bring a relief is
‘letting go’. Let the person go, let the incident be forgotten but with a
smile. Yes, it is about forgiving and forgetting and moving on with your life. And
you should go ahead with the same phrase ‘Let go’. Letting it go also helps in
mending bridges in relationships too. We often grumble about problems in
relationships and complain about family and friends who are unable to give us
time or thought. One thing that I have learned in life is from a quote, “Relationships
- of all kinds - are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open
hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze
tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto
it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with
respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But
hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is
lost.” By Kaleel
Jamison from The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of
Power: A Book about Leadership, Self-Empowerment, and Personal Growth. I have learned that no matter who or what,
if we cling to people and make them suffocated with attention, demands or even
love, they slip away from us and never to return. Yes, even love can be
suffocating if it goes overboard. It is better that you do not wait till the
other person screams at you to stay away. You should know to sense subtle hints
and stay away and it is ironical that this staying apart will bring you only
closer to the person. So see, “let go’ will only help strengthen relationships!
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‘Let go’ in
a way has spiritual connotations too. Gautam Buddha and Mahavir spoke of
detachment. In another words, what they also emphasised was the important of
letting it go. Try this even if you might find it difficult in the first few
days to actually let go but gradually, you will attain a sense of peace where
you can relook at the past circumstance and smile to yourself about yourself.
I am no
spiritualist and though the above are my realisations, it is not that I am
successful every time that I practise it but I am trying every day. I might eventually
be a pro at it. I know I can and I will.
