Friday, 11 October 2013

Let go!

Sometimes I feel it is so easy to face tough circumstances. All it needs is an attitude.  An attitude of courage and detachment, that will stand the test of time. In brief, just ‘let go’. This is one phrase that has umpteen meanings deep within it and thus can be used in varied instances. Many a times, we are hurt by people, incidents or circumstances. Sometimes, the hurt gets so engrossed within us that it keeps recurring before our eyes and makes us sad, disappointed and depressed. We may curse the person who has caused the hurt or blame ourselves for the incident. Fighting with the person or the circumstances won’t help. In the long run, what is going to bring a relief is ‘letting go’. Let the person go, let the incident be forgotten but with a smile. Yes, it is about forgiving and forgetting and moving on with your life. And you should go ahead with the same phrase ‘Let go’. Letting it go also helps in mending bridges in relationships too. We often grumble about problems in relationships and complain about family and friends who are unable to give us time or thought. One thing that I have learned in life is from a quote, “Relationships - of all kinds - are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.” By Kaleel Jamison from The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of Power: A Book about Leadership, Self-Empowerment, and Personal GrowthI have learned that no matter who or what, if we cling to people and make them suffocated with attention, demands or even love, they slip away from us and never to return. Yes, even love can be suffocating if it goes overboard. It is better that you do not wait till the other person screams at you to stay away. You should know to sense subtle hints and stay away and it is ironical that this staying apart will bring you only closer to the person. So see, “let go’ will only help strengthen relationships!
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‘Let go’ in a way has spiritual connotations too. Gautam Buddha and Mahavir spoke of detachment. In another words, what they also emphasised was the important of letting it go. Try this even if you might find it difficult in the first few days to actually let go but gradually, you will attain a sense of peace where you can relook at the past circumstance and smile to yourself about yourself.

I am no spiritualist and though the above are my realisations, it is not that I am successful every time that I practise it but I am trying every day. I might eventually be a pro at it. I know I can and I will. 

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